How to Manage Feeling Worthless

Corner of Worthlessness

I try and try to climb to the light of my being, yet, I cannot scale the wall of my worthlessness. So I collapse, again, in the shadows…

a heap of broken debris in the corner.

Feeling worthless. One of low self-esteem, loss of self-respect. The feeling that no one appreciates your efforts, that you do not matter to anyone, or to very few. Nothing you do is good enough, so why bother? Just writing about it brings an energy-draining feeling.

From there, feeling worthless often leads to self-pity, which can generate shame for having those feelings. Many numb these feelings with the use of drugs, alcohol, shopping, eating… In the most drastic cases, these feelings lead to suicidal thoughts and, sometimes, actions.

Where does it originate? Some say it stems from the early, formative years, if one repeatedly hears they are defective, not good enough. Yet, one can develop feelings of worthlessness if in a bad relationship, for example, where one endures continual put-downs, degradations. The words heard become adopted as our own and we continue to degrade ourselves; we don’t need others.

How would one manage feeling worthless? It is said that doing esteem-able acts is a way to increase one’s self-esteem, and thus, decrease or resolve those feelings. One might also discover their calling, whereby their actions are geared toward fulfilling an identified purpose. Often, one’s purpose is useful to others, which raises one’s self-esteem and self-respect.

Counseling of some sort to resolve those underlying feelings can be very useful and yield a positive self-esteem and self-confidence, thus, minimizing feelings of worthlessness.

Doing an honest inventory of yourself and your skills can lead to the realization that what was told to you was not true, that you do have many assets and many positive attributes.

Feeling worthless is so damaging to our spirit. It leads us to dangerous places in our mind and heart. The degrading things we were told or that we tell ourselves is not who we are. We are all delightful beings, each with specific skills and strengths. Learn those about yourself. Above all, be gentle with yourself as you heal.

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  4. Hi Jessica,

    Thank you so much for your comment. I really hate to see people struggle, because I know how painful that feels. Yet, you’re right when you say we each need to find our inner light, that which feeds us and lets us know we are valuable and worthy. I wish you well in your journey. Peace and love and gratitude to you also.

    Carolyn

  5. Carolyn,

    Thank you for sharing your wise words with us! This is so helpful for those of us who are struggling right now! We must find our inner light and fire up that spark to realize just how beautiful and valid and full of worth we really are!

    Peace and love and grateful thanks to you!

  6. Sherry,

    Thank you for your comment. I am sorry you are needing to deal with this and am glad my words struck a chord. May they be useful to you. I wish you well through this part of your journey.

    cj

  7. This is an issue that I am currently struggling with. Your words are inspirational and provoking. Thank you for the wisdom.

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