Taking It One Day At a Time

There is a lot to be said for living one day at a time, whether you are in sobriety or not. This doesn’t mean you don’t make plans or think ahead; you do. But you focus on the day before you; you focus on the present.

I used to spend my time in the past and the future… anything but the present moment before me. Consequently, I missed out on a whole lot of pleasure and goodness. I was angry about the past and kept living it over and over again. I also stayed in the past with my guilt over my actions and behaviors, things I said to others.

I lived in great fear of the future, imagining every detail of what could and would happen in my life. I also created a fantasy life in my mind, looking toward the future with great hopes of this or that happening. I was rarely in the present moment, enjoying what was right in front of me.

Then I got sober and I began the journey to learn how to live one day at a time. You don’t have to have a drinking problem to live one day at a time, only a realization that you are in the past and future and not the present moment.

On my journey, I was taught how to live in the moment by focusing on the next indicated thing to do. In other words, I learned  to go from task to task as it related to my goal or desired outcome. Sometimes, the next indicated thing was to wash the dishes or to take a nap.

As far as planning, I learned to make plans, but to hold them loosely, sometimes changing these plans according to my needs and desires when that moment rolled around. I was taught to make plans but to let go of the outcome.

The result has been that I no longer worry about the future or the past, and my fear of the future is much less. I have learned to accept the things I did or did not do in the past, and I have learned to make plans and let go of how it all works out. It is a most freeing way to live, taking it one day at a time. It has allowed me to focus on the moment, where all the richness of life lies.

How are you at living one day at a time? Have you mastered it or is that something you wish to learn to do? Leave a comment and let us know. And, have a Happy New Year… fun and safe.