Good morning to each of you! I hope for you the day is wonderful! This morning, there was a query asking “why do people judge others so harshly?” I am going to talk about this and word it a bit differently, so it is What is Behind Harsh Judgment of Others?
I think when we display harsh judgment, we are feeling insecure and small ourselves. In an effort to build ourselves up, perhaps, we tear down another, we show harsh judgment. We are intolerant of another’s differences, and strive to put them down to make our own views more justified, and in order to justify ourselves, we judge harshly.
The result of our harsh judgment of another is it kills their spirit. It beats them down and discourages them from shining their light.
The other problem with harsh judgment is how we turn upon ourselves with it. We are so harsh in our self-judgment that we go around with negative self-talk. This squashes our spirit, our ability to let our light shine, and it’s just not necessary. So, what is the solution?
The elixir for harsh judgment is developing tolerance and kindness. If we are tolerant of another, as long as s/he is not being harmful to themselves or another, what does it matter if their behavior or beliefs are different than ours? Think of another’s differences as adding richness to the fabric of life.
In a similar fashion, we need to be tolerant and kind to ourselves, allowing ourselves to have our quirks, our differences. If we are not being harmful to ourselves or another, our differences also add to the fabric of life. Our quirks are who we are. Let that shine and bring more joy, more diversity to our lives and the lives of others.
Look at your harsh judgment of another or yourself and then look and see if you are feeling insignificant or insecure. If you are, do something to get past that so you can stop with the harsh judgment. It serves no one.