Respect for the Rights of Others

Good morning, all! “Respect for the rights of others” was searched for four times, and I wish to address that today. To look at how to do this, it is necessary to look at what I believe another’s rights actually are. So let’s discuss them.

Cultivation of Differences

First, the biggest thing we can do to respect another is to tolerate one’s differences. In fact, we can celebrate the differences of each other, encouraging others, and ourselves, to greatness. The differences of others is what brings richness to our lives.

The second thing we can do to respect another is to treat them with kindness and consideration, just like we would want to be treated. When I say “consideration,” I am referring to consideration of one’s beliefs and one’s feelings.

It is the right of another to be treated as a worthy being, simply because they are living on this earth. We each are inherently worthy and we can respect that of another.

Acknowledging one’s individuality is another way to show respect for them. We spend lots of time trying to get others to be like us, to think like us, to act like us. Is that because we feel insecure about who we are ourselves?

If we respect someone’s individuality and cultivate their differences, think of the harmony that would be created among us. Similarly, if we respect OUR individuality and cultivate OUR differences, think how we would shine in the world.

So, armed with these things – tolerance, cultivation of differences, kindness, consideration, and encouragement of individuality – we will be showing respect for others’ rights.

What actions do you take which show respect for another? Leave a comment and let us know.

 

 

 

 

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Respect the Individuality of Yourself and Others

Perhaps the most kind and loving thing we can do is to show respect for individuality, both our own and another’s.

When we respect others, we promote peace and harmony in the world. When we respect ourselves, we gain emotional peace and the desire to stay sober.

“We ask of others to follow our dreams, to be like us. Why?” If you are like me, you were never celebrated for my individuality in your early years. If you were like me, you were compared to your siblings or others and found to be deficient, every time.

If we are doing that to another, we need to stop, as it kills the spirit. If we are disrespectful of ourselves and our talents, our attributes, we need to stop. It is killing our sense of purpose and our will to follow our dreams.

Instead, let’s celebrate the talents and skills and differences of each other, encouraging others and ourselves to greatness, to be unique, to be individuals.

When we do this, we will know a much richer life. And we will know more emotional freedom and peace. We will wish to stay sober to experience all of it.

Today, practice respecting the uniqueness of others, their individuality. Practice respecting your own individuality. Experience the peace.

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Respect Your Individuality – Respect Your Dream

Some people may spend a lot of time asking you to be like them, or to be like those around them. You may have expereinced this in life. When this has happened to me, I find it is because they don’t respect my individuality.

But then, do I? Do I respect my own individuality? Not completely. Comparison to others and coming up short on the stick is a concept that is engrained in me from early years. It has been difficult to change from that default, as I have experienced over the years. And, I continue to try…

Do you respect your own individuality? Do you help your individuality to flourish by standing up for who you are? Or are you constantly trying to be like someone else?

If you are standing up for yourself and your individuality, then you must be standing up for your dream. You are celebrating that part of you which wants to be expressed, and are taking action to further this part of you, this dream. That’s awesome. Good for you!

But what if you are not celebrating your dream, not respecting the individuality of it? How can you get to the point of celebration for your dream, so you are in sync with your soul’s desire?

Consider that you were gifted by the Universe with certain skills and natural talents. There is something in your life that comes easily for you, that you are good at. Think about that for a minute and really let it sink in; believe it to be true. Really think about the natural skill you have identified.

Then, consider that you have been gifted this thing for which you have passion and in which you enjoy engaging for the purpose of sharing it with the world. Consider that this is your mission in life. Consider that your people are waiting for you and that your gift is what they’re waiting for.

It is natural to feel a sort of reverence when thought of in this manner, so feel that fully. Then make the decision to step into that role, to take responsibility for your individuality by showing up for your life in service to others.

Practice respect for your individuality today. The more you do this, the more peace you will feel and remember, that is our objective, to feel more peace in our lives, more peace inside. Are you in?

 

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Respect of Individuality

Respect of Individuality

Perhaps the most kind and loving thing we can do is to show respect for individuality, both our own and another’s.

When we respect others, we promote peace and harmony in the world. When we respect ourselves, we gain emotional peace and the desire to stay sober.

“We ask of others to follow our dreams, to be like us. Why?” If you are like me, I was never celebrated for my individuality in my early years. I was compared to my siblings and found to be deficient, every time.

If we are doing that to another, we need to stop, as it kills the spirit. If we are disrespectful of ourselves and our talents, our attributes, we need to stop. It is killing our sense of purpose and our will to follow our dreams.

Instead, let’s celebrate the talents and skills and differences of each other, encouraging others and ourselves to greatness, to be unique, to be individuals.

When we do this, we will know a much richer life. And we will know more emotional freedom and peace, and will wish to stay sober to experience all of it.

Today, practice respecting the uniqueness of others, their individuality. Practice respecting your own individuality. Experience the peace.

 

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How to Respect Another’s Individuality

“We ask of others to follow our dreams, to be like us. Why?” 

Why, indeed! “Why can we not celebrate the talents and skills and differences of each other, encouraging others and ourselves to greatness, daring to stand out, to be unique, to be individual?”

Such is the verse that accompanies the image to the right in my book Opening the Gates of the Heart: A Journey of Healing. We are continuing on through the book in our search and quest for sobriety and inner peace, and today we are looking at individuality.

This verse was prompted by my experience of always being compared to others and being found deficient, almost every time. My dreams and talents and skills were rarely applauded for the fist 16 years of life; instead, I and my interests were compared to my sisters and found to be stupid, a waste of time. 

As a result, I have struggled with daring to stand out with my uniqueness, my talents and skills, until I became sober, did some healing work, and found inner peace.

We do great disservice to others when we compare them to ourselves or another, rather than accepting and applauding them as they express who they are in their soul. We are negating their Spirit-given talents and abilities, who they are at their very core.

Perhaps, the number one thing we can do to encourage individuality in others is to have a firm belief in and appreciation of who we are ourselves. We can work on ourselves to discover these things. When we do, we can go outside of ourselves and truly appreciate another who is different than us.

We no longer see the other as a threat, needing to be cut down, when we feel secure about who we are. Rather, we rejoice in all the different people that exist in the world, confident in the knowledge that the differences lend texture and richness to our lives.  

It is this single action that will bring us respect of individuality in others. Ask yourself today if you can truly see yourself with respect for your own individuality, and then observe how free you are to appreciate the individuality of those around you. 

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Respecting Others and Ourselves As Individuals

Sometimes, we as individuals do not respect others as individuals. So, our topic today is respect of individuality.

The verse that accompanies the photograph in the book starts, “We ask of others to follow our dreams, to be like us. Why?”

Respect of Individuality

Respect of Individuality

Why, indeed. Why do we think that what we are and what we do is what others should be and do? When we expect another to be like us, to follow our dreams, it thwarts the skills and talents of another, sending the message that who they are is not good enough, or simply not good.

Did you experience that at any point in your life? In childhood, in a marriage? I did. I was constantly compared to my sisters, who were academic. I was artistic, so in the comparison, I failed miserably.

It has taken my lifetime to revert the belief that I was not a good person. Even still, I struggle with feelings of not being good enough.

So, what’s the solution? How can we look at another and celebrate their differences as individuals? We can do just that. We can take special note of another’s individuality and respect it, celebrate it.

We can encourage another’s individuality, urging them to greatness in the areas in which they excel and are interested.

At the same time that we are respecting others as individuals, we can respect our own individuality. Oh, yes, for we – you – are each a unique individual, worthy of celebration and respect.

Take the time to think about all the things about yourself that make you an individual, all your special talents and gifts. Then, consider that these are the gifts you are intended to bring to the world.

Be willing to humbly share these gifts with everyone around you. When you do, you will begin to feel at peace with yourself and the world; it will bring you a feeling of completeness, wholeness. 

It is my hope that you will begin to see others as individuals, allowing them outside of any box in which you have placed them. And I hope that you begin to celebrate your uniqueness, allowing the world to see who you are as an individual.

 

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Are You Tolerant?

Practice of Tolerance

When you are feeling insecure, unsure of yourself, are you tolerant of others? Perhaps we display little tolerance when we are in such a state, fearful that our value pales in comparison. But when we discover another’s value, another’s worth, we also can discover that our own are not  diminished. We have the choice to see ourselves as unique, beautiful individuals – valuable and worthy. When we do, there is no need to be fearful that we are “less than.”

When we do not feel that we are lessor than another, we are able to be more tolerant, to be more accepting of another’s differences. It is also possible to become more tolerant when we stay on our side of the street, which means, we focus on what is going on in our life and take our nose out of other people’s business. This is a concept that one learns when one chooses sobriety as a way of life. One learns to continually assess one’s own behaviors, thoughts, words, and actions. It keeps one quite busy, such that there is no time to be in another’s business.

What does this have to do with tolerance? It’s all connected to the theory that when we can be comfortable in our own skin, we are more tolerant and accepting of other people, and we can cultivate the differences between us. When we are comfortable with who we are, we are less threatened by another’s skills or accomplishments because we see our our own skills, our own accomplishments and we acknowledge these.

And how do we get to that point? We conduct a self-appraisal, a self-inventory, if you will. We become very honest about not only our areas which need improvement; we list out our positive points, as well. We begin to see the delightful being that we are, to see the unique gifts that we bring to the world. Over time, we become less shy about shining our being in the world. We realize that is what we are meant to do. When we feel good about ourselves, we can be more tolerant of others, showing respect for their individuality.

Every one is unique, made differently, with different beliefs, unique habits. These are worthy of our respect, our tolerance. Are you tolerant of others? How about of yourself?

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Why Do We Judge Others So Harshly?

Absence of Judgment

Why so we judge others so harshly for being who they are, if their actions and behaviors feed their spirit and are not harmful to themselves or others?

Why so we judge ourselves so harshly for being who we are, if our actions and behaviors feed our spirit and are not harmful to ourselves or others?

This thought occurred to me one day as I was thinking about my neighbor, who is a little odd in his habits. After a minute, I admitted to myself that if someone were to look in at my life, I, too, am  odd. I drew myself up short as I realized how I was judging, rather than seeing each of us as just how we are.

From that grew the inclusion of all of us as a people and how we spend a lot of time judging. While it is necessary to assess others – their behaviors, thoughts, actions – as they relate to our personal safety and well-being, we tend to not stop there. We, instead, continue and find fault with what we discover.

Instead of appreciating the individuality of another, we stand in judgment, assigning positive and negative thoughts or even statements to people, about the other’s “flaws.” This amounts to character assignation. Where is the cultivation of the differences of another?

Perhaps, it is a choice we make – to not assign positive or negative, good versus bad, right versus wrong,  to our assessment of another. Perhaps, we are not even aware we are judging; we would see whether we are or are not, upon closer self-examination or self-appraisal.

Once having looked at ourselves and found we are judging, we can make the choice to stop that behavior, for to do so leads to peace, both within and in our world.

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Carolyn CJ jones is the author and photographer of the book, “Opening the Gates of the Heart: A Journey of Healing.” This is a book of wrought-iron gate photographs and inspirational prose that reflects her healing journey through deep and utter despair to joy and peace. This blog is the discussion of each topic as it appears in the book. Photos and/or the prose from the book begin each post. Further information about Carolyn and her book can be found in “About Carolyn” and “About the book” above.

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