Forgiveness – the Key to Happiness

Hello and good morning to you each! I have been silent for a few days… been busy and the days got away from me. Now I’m back and wanting to share about forgiveness and how by practicing it, you will find happiness.

First, I’d like to clarify something. People are often resistant to forgiveness because they are unwilling to admit that was was done was okay. So let me say that by forgiving someone, you are not saying that what happened was okay, you are not condoning the wrong. You are merely freeing a space in your heart so you can move forward with your life.

Forgiveness is for you, not the other person. Look at how you have been angry at another. Has it affected you and your life? Has it kept you stuck, unable to find happiness in your life? Is this what you want for the rest of your life, or would you like to find happiness?

How would you like to know the key that will benefit you for the rest of your life. bring you happiness? It is possible, you know. After 38 years, I released great anger and bitterness toward my parents for my childhood wounds, and if I could do it, you can do it, too!

To find forgiveness, I found that these steps worked:

  • Identify one person with whom you are angry and resentful.
  • Look at why you are angry; feel that emotion. Remember, what you resist, persists.
  • Now look at the things that they endured during their life; consider these things.
  • See the person as a wounded person, suffering from wounds they endured during the course of their life.
  • Consider that they are merely another human being… hurting.
  • Have compassion for that wounded person.
  • Revisit compassion until one day, forgiveness just settles on you like a warm cloak.
  • Recognize that you have found forgiveness.
  • Do this on a daily basis every time your anger resurfaces.

Try these steps and let us know what you discover by leaving a comment in the comment section. If you would like more assistance to go through this process, I invite you to receive my ebook, In Search of Forgiveness. Simply type in your name and email in the boxes to the right and you will receive it. Also, you will begin receiving uplifting and supportive newsletters from me.

I wish you well on your journey to wholeness, peace, and happiness. May you create forgiveness in your life.


How to Achieve Forgiveness

How to achieve forgiveness” is the search term which stuck out for me this morning. Interestingly, I just finished revising my report about forgiveness. You can get that report by leaving your email address to the right. The report details step-by-step how to get past anger and find forgiveness.

The thing is, if you are dealing with anger and grudges that you have held for a long time, they are affecting everything in your life. That anger winds its way into everything you do, affects everyone you talk to. You may be seeing the effects of anger in your relationships with your spouse, children, boss, or others. If you’re tired of this, then read on to find out the process of forgiveness.

Once you identify you have an underlying anger, you can make the decision to do something about it. Perhaps you are being forced into doing something about your anger, like… you are heading for a divorce or loss of your job. If something like this is the case, then you will want to read on…

To overcome anger and grudges, you need to look at forgiveness as a way to dispel that anger. Most people think that to forgive means you are condoning and pardoning what was done to you. That is not the case. You are not letting the other person off the hook, you are merely deciding to forgive because the anger is affecting your life.

To get a handle on your anger, your grudge, look at what is underneath the anger. It is usually hurt, or the pain of betrayal, for example. Allow yourself to feel that hurt, that pain. Then make a decision that you want something better for your life than a life filled with anger and bitterness. Make a decision that you want peace in your life.

Many people drink over their angers. In fact, resentments are the number one reason people drink, according to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. That was the case for me; I drank heavily to fuel my anger, my indignation. I stayed a bitter person for 38 years as a result. Then I found sobriety and after a while, that all changed. I found forgiveness and then I realized I wanted peace instead of anger.

Actually, I stumbled across forgiveness one day. I realized I did the very same thing to others that had been done to me in childhood… I called others worthless and no good. When I realized I meant those words about myself, I began to wonder if the person who said those words to me actually meant them about himself rather than me.

That opened the door to allow me to consider that person with compassion. Through compassion, I was able to discover a way to forgive. I do not condone what happened nor excuse the behavior, but I can see why it occurred and that has made all the difference. It was possible through my decision to get sober and then lead a life of sobriety. In order to remain sober, I needed to let go of the anger. Luckily, I discovered forgiveness.

If you are looking at your anger issues and thinking you need to do something about them, then you may wish to read the in-depth description of how to find forgiveness that is in my special report. Get that report by leaving your email to the right. In exchange, you will receive an occasional, about once a month, email from me with tidbits about ways to maintain peace in your life.

Here’s to your ability to find forgiveness. It leads to freedom like you have never experienced. May you enjoy it!


At A Crossroads

Good morning. We are at a crossroads. We have completed all the topics in the book. I will start over with fear and progress through the book again. And I am requesting your help.

The whole idea of this blog is to acquaint you with my book’s topics, which go from fear, worthlessness, and despair through self-awareness and discovery, to joy and peace. I can do this in one of four ways and would like you to tell me what you, as the readers, would like to see.

I can: 1) go through the topics again and talk about how I learned and grew from them. 2) I can talk in the “we” voice, about how each of these topics relate to us in general, in my observation. 3) I can talk about sobriety and what I have experienced and learned about each topic while sober. 4) I can intersperse my writing with video. Just bear in mind, I am much better writing then when in front of a camera.

Those are my options. I would love to take this blog in the direction which you would like to see. Please provide me feedback. It would be most helpful. Please include if you would like to continue to see the picture associated with each topic. Thank you!