Practice of Tolerance
When you are feeling insecure, unsure of yourself, are you tolerant of others? Perhaps we display little tolerance when we are in such a state, fearful that our value pales in comparison. But when we discover another’s value, another’s worth, we also can discover that our own are not diminished. We have the choice to see ourselves as unique, beautiful individuals – valuable and worthy. When we do, there is no need to be fearful that we are “less than.”
When we do not feel that we are lessor than another, we are able to be more tolerant, to be more accepting of another’s differences. It is also possible to become more tolerant when we stay on our side of the street, which means, we focus on what is going on in our life and take our nose out of other people’s business. This is a concept that one learns when one chooses sobriety as a way of life. One learns to continually assess one’s own behaviors, thoughts, words, and actions. It keeps one quite busy, such that there is no time to be in another’s business.
What does this have to do with tolerance? It’s all connected to the theory that when we can be comfortable in our own skin, we are more tolerant and accepting of other people, and we can cultivate the differences between us. When we are comfortable with who we are, we are less threatened by another’s skills or accomplishments because we see our our own skills, our own accomplishments and we acknowledge these.
And how do we get to that point? We conduct a self-appraisal, a self-inventory, if you will. We become very honest about not only our areas which need improvement; we list out our positive points, as well. We begin to see the delightful being that we are, to see the unique gifts that we bring to the world. Over time, we become less shy about shining our being in the world. We realize that is what we are meant to do. When we feel good about ourselves, we can be more tolerant of others, showing respect for their individuality.
Every one is unique, made differently, with different beliefs, unique habits. These are worthy of our respect, our tolerance. Are you tolerant of others? How about of yourself?